5 Ways to Settle A Quarrel With Your Bestie
At times we turn our back to our best friends and most of times we don’t really like this sh!t anyway we can still make it up and yay! you’ll be friends once again.
Kindly surf downwards and see tips have gat to make you are and your best friend renew your friendship.
1. Find Out What Has Gone Wrong
• Isolate the problem
Before you can fix the conflict or quarrel, you need to know what went wrong. You need to go beneath the “he-said, she-said” banter and determine what was the underlying cause of the conflict.
If you and your friend actually had a confrontation, think about how you were involved in it.
What really ticked you off? Did your response escalate the tension? If so, how? I a list of what you felt the main problems were and think about what your friend may have thought from their perspective. Practice empathy by putting yourself in their shoes and considering possible misinterpretations.
If no confrontation happened, then think about your last conversation with your friend and check if you’ve done anything to hurt him or her
Did you say or do something that could be perceived as offensive? Did you fail to consider your friend’s feelings on a sensitive topic? You may want to consult mutual friends who know both of you well, but don’t let the conversation devolve into gossiping or accusations. Your goal is to do what you can to figure out what is wrong, but if you’re at a dead end, you’ll want to just start a conversation with your friend and ask.
Finding a solution
• Yes! Have you gotten the problem? Then think of a way it should be solved
First consider it from your perspective and what changes you are willing to, or feel that you should, make. This is the starting point for a compromise. Then think of what you would like to ask your friend to do. But remember, friendships and trust cannot be easily mended.
3. Try resolving things with your friends
• Set up a conversation with your friend.
Send a note/message to your friend via any social media platfrom or anything explaining that you’ve been doing some reflection over your confrontation, and you think that both of you would benefit from a calm discussion over the fundamental conflict. You’d like to hear their side of the story — a conversation needs to happen before actual can occur, and you hope that your friend would take the time to sit down with you soon.
• Think honestly and hard about what you did wrong in this situation, and prepare yourself to apologize. It’s the best way to genuinely show your friend that you would like to reconcile.
• Allow your friend to vex a little. He or she might still be actively angry. Allow him or her to express his or her feelings, and then communicate again that you’re sorry. Ask if there’s anything else you can do to make it up to your friend.
• Present a peace offering to he or she. A peace offering can be as simple as offering a hug, or elaborate as making your friend a gift. Whatever it is, it should present a sense of goodwill and let your friend know that you valued him or her.
4. Resume your friendship
• Get back to normal ASAP
Dont well on the fight or keep bringing it up. Instead, work hard at settling back into your normal routine and treating your friend like the argument never happened. You and your friend should both let things go to give each other the chance to re-earn their trust.
• Know when to move on.
If you’ve sincerely tried to apologize, demonstrate your friendship, or seek help and your friend has continued to reject your efforts, it might be time to end the friendship . Someone who can’t appreciate what you’re doing to try to fix the problem is either too angry to reconcile or shouldn’t be your friend in the first place.
W Written By Gbolahan Adeyemi (TeshOla)
